The biggest mistake people make is that they quit too early.
They give up on themselves.
I don't mean early as in one year in, or even one week or one month. I'm talking about quitting before you're 30, 40 or 50.
I'm talking about having something that you really want to do in life and, by the time you really get around to doing it, or at least giving it your best shot, thinking that it's too late – and not doing it all.
Maybe there was something – a hobby or career path – that you started when you were 15, 20 or 25 years old. But life took a few turns: you weren't mature enough, you went through some tough times, you couldn't handle the expectation, and you ended up taking another path.
Or maybe you were quite successful at something at a very young age, but things went pear-shaped in some way: maybe the success faded, maybe you couldn't handle the responsibility, maybe you were in a bad place emotionally and took a break and never went back.
Maybe when you should have gone back you had new responsibilities to take care of: you had to get a real job, you did what your parents expected you to do, you did what you thought you should be doing rather than what you wanted to do – you took what you thought was an easier path.
Now, all these years on, you find yourself in a position where you want to get back on that pathway.
Emotionally, you are in a better place.
You have the resources at your disposal, you have a stronger vision, and you have the maturity and the experience behind you to get back to doing what you love.
The problem is, it's 10, 20 or 30 years down the line. Things have changed, times have changed.
The people around you are talking about retiring, maybe having another child, taking up golf or getting a bigger TV.
They say they feel tired and that they're getting old, that they have wrinkles and “can't handle the late night's any more”.
The people around you are into reality TV, surfing Facebook, shopping online of an evening and taking any opportunity they can to sit down.
It comes with age, right?
But you don't feel like that.
You've got a fire in your belly.
Something is pulling at your soul.
You don't feel old at all.
If anything, you feel more energized and committed than you have ever done.
You don't recognize the place that other people around you are in.
You recognize that you could achieve so much in the next 10, 20 or 30 years.
In fact, you feel like you can achieve a hell of a lot in three months, six months or a year.
You could put your heart and soul back into doing what you love and, not do it in pursuit of money or fame, but because it's your passion: because you enjoy the journey, you enjoy the commitment, you enjoy the process, the self-development, the reward of the doing, the creativity, the intuitive endeavor.
But you know it's gonna be a lonely ride, right?
Because people won't really get it. And that's a little scary.
They'll probably think it's a midlife crisis; like you're going back to doing something you used to do when you were “young”.
They'll probably think “you're a bit old for all that”.
But here's the thing: you are exactly the right age to do this.
You are in exactly the right place to do this.
This is exactly the right time.
There has never been a better time.
There has never been a better moment to get restarted.
Whatever is in your head that you want to do, make a commitment to doing it every day from now on.
Even if it's just 15 minutes of whatever it is: 15 minutes practice, 15 minutes reading, 15 minutes drawing, 15 minutes writing, 15 minutes running. Whatever, now is the perfect time.
Once you start doing it, you'll feel even more energized and revitalized. You'll feel reconnected with yourself and in better alignment with the universe.
But know this…
There will be many days when you doubt yourself:
Am I any good at this?
Am I too old?
Do people think I'm stupid?
Does anyone really care?
Is this a waste of time?
But the truth is: If it doesn't scare you a little, if it doesn't come with a little doubt, it's probably not worth doing.
Everything worth doing comes with a little fear, a little discomfort.
The only thing that matters is that you do it.
Everything else will fall into place.
You won't lie on your deathbed and regret doing this.
And people will only end up admiring you for doing it, even from afar, and even if they don't say so.
This is your life, your journey.
People die before they reach 10 years old, before they reach their 20s, in their 30s and 40s. It's tragic.
You are still here.
And while you're still here, you have the opportunity to do this.
Don't stand in the way of yourself. Don't resist your intuition and the magnet that is pulling you towards what you want to do.
Stop making excuses.
Start now.

Mustaha elson says
Thanks so much
Patrick Murphy says
This is surprisingly exactly what I needed today!
Donna says
Thank you, I needed to see this. Funny how we get just the right message at the exact right time.
Alfred James says
It certainly is. Glad you found it!
Zhinia Hamaker says
It has helped me a lot, finding this article. I’m glad I got it!
Alfred James says
I’m happy to hear that!
Gordy Mills says
I always wanted to be a singer and moved to NY at 29 with no money. Family and aunt said it is too late and not gonna happen and not send any more money. I have huge dreams and I believe. This is what I needed to hear.
Ann Madden says
Does mindfulness and/or meditation help a young
Mother deal with an 8 yr old boy. He appears to have a form of ADHD but reacts only with one person.
He reacts calmly with his Dad.
I would appreciate your advice. Thank you
Warm Regards, Ann
Stella says
Hi Alfred!
Thank you so much for your emails with very interesting and helpful articles. I always enjoy reading & learning from them.
Ive been wanting to practise meditation and to do it on regular basis. I found your tips easy to understand and follow. Hopefully i can start very soon.
Merry Christmas!
Stella
Alfred James says
Thank you Stella. I’m glad you find the tips useful. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Ahmad Aljammal says
Dear Alfred,
I really find your article very motivational especially for some on my situation who just lost his job at his 50’s.
Thank you again.
Alfred James says
Sorry to hear that Ahmad, but I know something better is around the corner for you. I’m glad the article has motivated you. All the best for 2021. Keep your head up!
adam s says
thank you I don’t know why I get so sad about the past and how it didn’t live up to what I hoped when I am existing now in the present
Alfred James says
Many of us do. It is hard to come to terms with the fact that life, in many ways, has been a disappointment. But we do have the now, and in the now we can try to do something that makes us happy, or something for someone else that makes a difference to their life.
Barb says
Sums up my life pretty well. I’m 59 and in the final stretch of finishing my doctorate. People think I’m nuts. I always wanted to do it, but life – and lack of resources – kept me from doing it. My goal is to defend my dissertation before I’m 60.
My brother died in November from Covid-19. He had a great last year of life, and I’m glad he had retired at 60 to do the things he wanted to do. Life is too short to say “I wish I had…”
Alfred James says
It’s great to hear that you are going after this goal and not letting anything stop you. I wish you all the best.
I’m sorry to hear about your brother. It’s often these sad events that make us realize that life is too short to worry what others think or might think, and to put off what we really want to do any longer. One day there won’t be another day…